It seems to be that we always have to proof ourself to others because they do not know your capabilities and skill level. They don't know how you will respond to different scenarios, so you try to show them you are capable to perform that task. Apparently your past experiences don't really matter to some people, they want to see you "do the job".
When I was first hired on the fire department, I was one of the oldest in my class of recruits. After a few weeks, after two of them got fired or quit, I became the oldest at age 30, competing against 18 year old's. I admit it was tough. I had come from the corporate world and worked my way up to a manager position. As a Staff sergeant in the Air Force, I also managed tasks and others. So convincing my new bosses was not hard, but a pain at times. There were always quizzes about my work history and capabilities. Some bosses were easy going and others (or I should say) were hard ass, to be blunt. Either way, I believe I showed them I could do the job and did it efficiently.
After my probation period, I was sent from station to station until a open spot was available. At each station, I had to proof myself. That got old real quick. After a few months a spot became open and I got it. Then I found myself watching others to see what their skill level was. Some were quickly accepted, some it took the bosses to talk to them, and some were butt-kissers trying to get accepted and be one of the "good old boys". I never really cared for that type. If you were not one of them, you were treated like an outsider. They were like "back stabbers" and I never trusted them.
These lessons taught me to accept everyone as an equal until they show me otherwise. I don't care about color, race, religion, sexual beliefs, or politics. I don't listen to gossip or rumors about anyone, that is someone else's opinion and not mine. I understand people say thing they don't really mean, so I give them the benefit of the doubt and let it slide. I ask no more of anyone except their respect, kindness and acceptance for who I am and not to be judged. That is God's job. It is my belief we should all try to follow those standards and as the Golden Rule says, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Treat them like you want them to treat you. I believe most of you really do this. This is written in all spiritual writings in all religions.
My former and late Fire Chief said it best in two word, "Be Nice" That says it all. Take care, stay safe and be nice. We will be on the road for the next few weeks.
